{"id":78,"date":"2020-03-17T15:53:00","date_gmt":"2020-03-17T15:53:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ireneeng.com\/?p=78"},"modified":"2020-06-08T18:36:51","modified_gmt":"2020-06-08T18:36:51","slug":"appellation-yeye-nainai","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ireneeng.com\/?p=78","title":{"rendered":"Appellation: Yeye & Nainai"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Mom, myself, Nainai & Yeye<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Many have questioned my relationship with my Yeye and Nainai<\/a>.
\nYou’re right to wonder because Yeye<\/em> and Nainai<\/em> mean paternal grandfather and grandmother in Chinese respectively. But the couple<\/a> whom I called Yeye and Nainai were, in fact, my maternal grandfather and his concubine. There were several reasons for this. One was that at my birth in the 1960s, my paternal grandfather had already passed away and his wife was living in Taipei since 1948. Given the tense relationship between the Strait, the chances of seeing her were zero. Secondly, I was the firstborn of my mother’s family and her father was dying to be called Yeye, even if I should\u2019ve called him Gongong (maternal grandfather). Thirdly, my biological maternal grandmother Popo lived alone ever since her husband met the beautiful concubine. To differentiate Popo \"\"<\/a>from the concubine, my mother devised the scheme: Popo was Popo. Gonggong and his concubine were Yeye and Nainai.<\/p>\n

With Yeye in the\u00a0courtyard<\/span>\u00a0of our siheyuan<\/a> in Beijing \u00a0<\/span><\/sup><\/p>\n

Chenghu \u79f0\u547c title\/appellation, has always been important in China, which is strictly followed. During my visit to Beijing in 2003, I was having an animated conversation with a granduncle who was a few years younger than my father, due to the fact that he was the son of the youngest concubine. As the dishes were piling up on our dinner table and our talk rose to a crescendo, I slipped and called him uncle. His warm demeanor instantly vanished, and he admonished me without mercy. “Xiaoning, I am your granduncle.”<\/p>\n

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With Nainai<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Being Chinese can be tough because older generations guard their filial appellations zealously — in the not too distant past, seniority was greatly respected. After you sort out which generation s\/he is, the title is the next hurdle. Lineage relationship is important, hence each of them having a specific title. We even have different title for brothers\u2019 wives, and different regions might have slight variations.
\nThe western method of referring to your aunts and uncles works well, but in a different way. Picture three cousins talking about their uncle Joe. Joe is Jiujiu to me, but Shushu \u53d4\u53d4 to cousin Wen, and Bobo \u4f2f\u4f2f to cousin Wei. So, I have to be careful when referring to Uncle Joe with different cousins. In this situation, I think the western way of simply calling him Uncle Joe may just work better. \u5404\u6709\u5343\u79cb.<\/p>\n

Here are more kinship titles or filial terms from China<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Many have questioned my relationship with my Yeye and Nainai. You’re right to wonder because Yeye and Nainai mean paternal grandfather and grandmother in Chinese…<\/p>\n

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