In reality, more than one person in a relationship (most often involves two), has its own dynamics, and people in it have their own special way of coping with one another, be spouses (heterosexual or homosexual,), significant others, friends and relatives, etc. Think of the shoe and foot scenario: only the wearer knew the true comfort level of the shoe regardless what others think, and how shoe looked on the wearer. The appearance might be aesthetics to the observers but they won’t know how truly fit the shoe is to the foot.
I need a life? Ok, I’m going to get one now. Ciao ..