Golfer’s maternal grandfather had just passed away peacefully at LIJ this morning at age of 92. He went to the emergency room from home last night, had blood transfusion. Although he’s diagnosed of lung cancer five years ago, he opted to do nothing, had been in good health. I stood in the room with my in-laws and Uncle Paul, his only son with whom he and his wife live with since they migrate to New York from HK in 1987, thinking what a nice way to go, quick and without suffering. Regretfully, when I drove my in-laws there, he already passed away 45 minutes ago. While waiting for his wife, Uncle Paul muttered that he didn’t do enough for his father .. ..
The hospital was very considerate. After parking, I went up to the room. In the hall way, as I counted the room number, all were open except the one the grandfather was in. It was right next to the nurse or admin station. I was a little apprehend, feeling eel. As soon as I asked the lady at the desk if I could go in, she asked who I’m and knocked on the door. They provided him with a neat private room, knowing well that he’ll probably won’t make it. They refused the resuscitation. They said the last time the Dr advice them either verbatim or implying that if he fainted, don’t call 911, wait till he passed away. Otherwise the hospital would want to resuscitate him, that would cause a lot of pain. .. is the Dr an Asian?
Uncle Paul asked the nurse what to do next since he’s new at this. The hospital will wash him and bring him down to the morgue. The funeral home will come to collect him.
Do people all feel the same way that they didn’t do enough for those who had passed away? Foreseeing the regret, would that prompt us to do more while we have the opportunity? The saying goes that a parent sick for one hundred days will have no filial sons .. .. I never had the chance to witness it or prove it and this can apply to any partner of a relationship, but knowing human nature, this is probably true. I just don’t think it’s hard to do something for someone, it’s day in and day out that’s difficult. Same in tennis. On a given day, anyone can beat Sampras or Federer. But what make them champion is they continuously win, day in and day out, no matter what, on a good hair day or bad.