Irene Eng The Kibbitzer

FT has an interesting article on extramarital affairs.  Not surprising that each country has different rules and views based on the economical status, that men in wealthier nations (except Scandinavia) cheat less than the poorer ones, Togo 37%, China 18% n Switzerland mere 3%.  Some terms they use … Nigeria: sexual networking; Finlnad: parallel relationship; France: simultaneous multipartnerships and Indonesia: no-strings-attached affair is bobok bobok siang=B.B.S=afternon nap and brief love affair = wonderful interval, LOL …  “.In the US, an affair is an occasion for consulting therapists, adultery gurus, relationship coaches, support groups, internet chat rooms and self- help books. It’s also an opportunity to attend seminars, healing weekends and religious retreats dealing with affairs.“  Anything, no matter how remotely or urgently, you can find it in the USA, be it a kitchcn gadgets or marriage repair shop.  ‘… The French are more faithful than Americans during courtship, and that both marriages and affairs last longer in France than they do in the US. “In France, a relationship that has a sexual component appears to involve a higher degree of commitment than in the US,” …‘ and that in general American cheaters are viewed as villain while French as protagonist. …  Marriage is no different than a corporation or trading that you need to have a sound plan and execute and manage it: you need to get it off the ground as in biz, or look for an entry in trading, as courting, then grow it, when you have your kids and your career(s) have reached a certain level, you’ll need to maintain it.  How do each spouse make the partner happy is very central to the long lasting of the union.  I guess each couple has their own unique way to manage it, you do what you can to make it work: as long as you fulfill your obligations, what do you do perhaps is entirely yours to decide.

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